Work to Live or Live to Work?
Let me ask you a question. Do you work to live or do you live to work? Up until the mid 2000’s I had fallen into the trap of living to work. I had never set out to do that. It had just sort of crept up on me.
In my last post Wisdom from a Great Mentor I shared how I had worked with Dr Fred Grosse and participated in a year long mentoring course with him which changed my life significantly. I am going to share some of what I learned over the next several posts. In this one I will share the beginning of that journey.
Dr Fred pretty much opened the first day by saying “to have money without a magnificent life is a joke”. Dr Fred teaches “to design a life with purpose”.
We started out by listing the things in life that make our heart sing.
He had us break this down into various activities and these have numbers.
The first one is a “10”
Dr Fred describes a “10” as something that is “an ordinary wonderful everyday magnificent experience”. These are things we can do every day and not get sick of them.
As part of our homework we were asked to come up with 500 or more things we could do each day – basically experiences that make our heart sing. Now that stumped me. 500!
Here are some of the things off my list. They have changed a bit now but this was some of them at the time.
- Morning exercise (yes I love exercising)
- breakfast with my husband
- playing with my dog (sadly she is no longer with us)
- morning coffee
- swimming in the ocean
- being in nature, watching a sunrise/ sunset
- burning candles with dinner
- oil burners on
- fresh flowers in the house
- a glass of wine with dinner
- listening to music
- a hot shower
- soaking a bath tub
- – and another several hundred things – yes I did get a good list but it took a bit of time.
One benefit of doing this is that it helps us feel gratitude and focus on the things we like to do. It helped me make sure I included as many as I could each day and to weave my life around them. Since then my husband and I have adopted this language and often refer to our “tens”.
Next came 25’s
A “25” is something we like to do regularly but not every day – maybe every fortnight or once a month.
My list of these includes;
- going to the movies
- going to a live show
- dinner at a restaurant
- manicure and a range of other treatments
- dinner with friends
- time with family
- having a drink at my favorite bar overlooking the ocean
- reading a good book (well maybe that should be on the 10s list)
And then we have 50’s
A “50” is something you would do once or twice a year.
These are special events and you should have a long list so you can work your way through them. My list includes time with my family (we are spread around the country) and a long list of overseas travel I still want to do. I have things like;
- Christmas in New York (I live in Australia and our Christmas is very hot)
- Visiting Turkey
- Alaskan cruise
- Greek Island cruise
- Taking my husband to London (I lived there for a while but he has never been)
- Mexico and South America
And last came 100’s
Hundreds are the same activities as 50’s BUT they are tax deductible. Now that made my heart sing – once a CPA always one at heart – tax deductions!
For example I am building a Networking Business with a goal to build it globally so that I can travel with my business.
Can you see how this exercise can help us with the question do we Work to Live or Live to Work?
Our lives should not be all about work. I encourage you to make a list of your 10’s, 25’s, 50’s and 100’s.
Dr Fred said to us “if you spend all your time earning your living – when do you have time for your life?”
Make your list and please let me know some of your 10,25,50 and 100′s. What makes your heart sing?
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