Stand Out vs Playing Small
The words “Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.” (From the movie, what a girl wants) stood out for me as I read Ray Higdon’s post 7 Questions to see if you are on the Success Path this week.
Ray was saying that if you are looking for buy-in from your friends and family in most cases you are not going to find it on the success path. Wow isn’t that the truth?
For me it is very much like the words of Marianne Williamson in A Return to Love that I shared in a recent blog post Fall on Face I cannot read those words (and I do read them often) without feeling emotion.
Why? I ask myself. Why do words of playing small rather than shining our light trigger such emotion in me? Of course I know the answer…. it is because I have lived much of my life trying to fit in, playing small.
My life has been very much about reaching out and going for a goal, standing out, and then wanting to curl up and hide, wanting to “fit in”. I also see others doing the same.
I have been successful. I was a CPA with my own practice, a principal in a financial planning practice, CEO of a Seminar and Events Company plus more. But I know I have more to give and more to achieve and I know playing small in any way will not get me there. Especially in the Network Marketing Profession. I know I am far from alone.
I believe we are all here to shine and that most of us choose not to. We hide behind all sorts of reasons and excuses and choose mediocrity and our comfort zones.
The need to Stand out vs playing small is crucial in the Network Marketing Profession. If you play small you will not achieve success. The only way to the top is to stand out.
In my last post I quoted Eric Worre as saying “the catch to Network Marketing is we need to be able to deal with the loss of social esteem in the beginning. There are ignorant people out there that will think less of us for joining.” I suspect many people join a Network Marketing Company and get put off by the first couple of people who say no to them.
The sad thing about this is that people join an MLM business because they want a better life, they want success, they have dreams. Yet they want the approval of people who do not share either their dreams or that vision. The two cannot co-exist. We have to move past seeking approval.
This is why we constantly hear that we need to engage in personal development. It is critical for our success.
I have been involved in personal development for more than 30 years (now I am dating myself 🙂 ). I was fortunate to be the CEO of a company that promoted some of the world’s top author/speakers, including Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad Poor Dad. I have witnessed many people transform their lives so I know it can be done. We can grow.
There is so much information available to help us grow and become more. We must do this on a regular basis, daily is best. If we do then we truly can “Stop trying to fit in and do what we were born to do – stand out”.