Stand Out vs Playing Small
The words “Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.” (From the movie, what a girl wants) stood out for me as I read Ray Higdon’s post 7 Questions to see if you are on the Success Path this week.
Ray was saying that if you are looking for buy-in from your friends and family in most cases you are not going to find it on the success path. Wow isn’t that the truth?
For me it is very much like the words of Marianne Williamson in A Return to Love that I shared in a recent blog post Fall on Face I cannot read those words (and I do read them often) without feeling emotion.
Why? I ask myself. Why do words of playing small rather than shining our light trigger such emotion in me? Of course I know the answer…. it is because I have lived much of my life trying to fit in, playing small.
My life has been very much about reaching out and going for a goal, standing out, and then wanting to curl up and hide, wanting to “fit in”. I also see others doing the same.
I have been successful. I was a CPA with my own practice, a principal in a financial planning practice, CEO of a Seminar and Events Company plus more. But I know I have more to give and more to achieve and I know playing small in any way will not get me there. Especially in the Network Marketing Profession. I know I am far from alone.
I believe we are all here to shine and that most of us choose not to. We hide behind all sorts of reasons and excuses and choose mediocrity and our comfort zones.
The need to Stand out vs playing small is crucial in the Network Marketing Profession. If you play small you will not achieve success. The only way to the top is to stand out.
In my last post I quoted Eric Worre as saying “the catch to Network Marketing is we need to be able to deal with the loss of social esteem in the beginning. There are ignorant people out there that will think less of us for joining.” I suspect many people join a Network Marketing Company and get put off by the first couple of people who say no to them.
The sad thing about this is that people join an MLM business because they want a better life, they want success, they have dreams. Yet they want the approval of people who do not share either their dreams or that vision. The two cannot co-exist. We have to move past seeking approval.
This is why we constantly hear that we need to engage in personal development. It is critical for our success.
I have been involved in personal development for more than 30 years (now I am dating myself 🙂 ). I was fortunate to be the CEO of a company that promoted some of the world’s top author/speakers, including Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad Poor Dad. I have witnessed many people transform their lives so I know it can be done. We can grow.
There is so much information available to help us grow and become more. We must do this on a regular basis, daily is best. If we do then we truly can “Stop trying to fit in and do what we were born to do – stand out”.
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Blake says
I agree with your points Sue,
Why be at the corner when you can be at the center of your life? This post reminds me of a song lyric that goes like..”This is the time to be more than a name or a face in the crowd…”
Improving ourselves is critical in attaining our goals in life and ultimately, SUCCESS.
Thanks for this great share!
Cheers,
Blake
Sue says
Hey Blake thanks for your comment. I love the way you have put “why be at the corner when you can be the center of your life” such a wonderful question.
Yes we do have to continually improve ourselves. I also love your lyric here 🙂
Regards
Sue
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Adrienne says
Oh I loved this post Sue…
I remember thinking some of these very same things. I didn’t know how to stand out above the rest, be someone others would want to hear from. I had no clue how to accomplish that until I realized that it all starts with you just being you.
We all connect differently with others. We’re not all the same, we don’t all think the same and we don’t all learn the same. When you’re able to connect with those who understand you or can relate to you, that’s how you’ve been able to stand out. It all just starts with being you.
That’s another reason personal development is so important. It will help you realize your own potential and stop thinking small. We were all put on this earth to achieve greatness. We have to find it within ourselves to learn how to do that. Connecting with others who are here for the same reasons is definitely the way to start you on your path.
Loved this post so thank you for sharing your insights with us all.
~Adrienne
Sue says
Thanks Adrienne and I glad you like the post.
Oh you have said such words of wisdom in that “is all starts with just being you” how true and simple that is and yet how we can make it so complicated.
I agree with you that personal development is so important. I am so glad I found it early in my life. Having said that it is never ending but I am sure that is why we are here.
Take care
Sue
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It’s really a wonderful article Sue. Thanks for sharing. I do really agree with the words – If we do then we truly can “Stop trying to fit in and do what we were born to do – stand out”. This is truly an inspiration for me. 🙂
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It’s an inspirational post, Sue. I like your message how to stand out and no doubt personal development is very important in this case.
Sue says
Thanks for your comment Pete.
Yes I agree that personal development does play a very important part in having the confidence to stand out.
Sue
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Well said, Sue. That quote is something I think a lot of people need to hear now. There’s a difference between being accepted and fitting in. It’s great to have real, healthy support from people you care about and work with, but it’s another thing to hold back from reaching your true potential so people will like you. When that happens, you’re not being yourself and they don’t like the real YOU anyway.
Sue says
Thanks for your comment Laurel. I agree with you that many people would benefit from that quote.
Oh yes you are so spot on with what you say about by trying to hold back to be liked and then people not liking the real you! It is so true.
Thanks for your thoughts.
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Sue says
Thanks for your comment Charles. I agree most of us do not “polish” ourselves.
30+ years of personal development is a long time for sure and the thing is I am still learning and getting distinctions all the time. I used to think there would be a point where I would have “arrived”. But I now know that is not true. We are here to grow and learn.
Thanks again for your feedback. I appreciate it.
Sue
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