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Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy?

Right Or Happy?

I was reminded of the question “would you rather be right or happy” through a series of events over the last couple of days. Right or Happy

I have heard this concept explained many times by various teachers of personal development and Law of Attraction. I believe the concept originated from A Course in Miracles.

It is based on the concept that our ego is what wants or needs to be “right”.  When we are in this state of being,  pushing our opinion on others or telling people how we were wronged,  clearly we are not experiencing happiness at the same time.

Hence the question Would you rather be right or happy?

There are many people that will choose right every time. They will be red in the face and pushing out their opinion to whoever they hope to convert to their thinking.  They  are like a dog with a bone.

If you are a believer of Law of Attraction then happiness is what you will choose.

The Event that prompted this Post

My friend Donna Merrill, from DonnaMerrillTribe wrote a review of an opportunity she had once been a part of and since left.  Like all business opportunities there are people that love this one and some who do not.  That is life we are all different and should respect each others right to choose.

The post was meant to have a video of a hangout Donna did with  a guy named Aki Wood. The recording did not work so Aki re-recorded a video which is included.

I am a part of the business Donna was reviewing.  Donna  is not and that is okay we are good friends and respect each others choices and differences.

Not everyone thinks or behaves like I do though. Donna had a person comment in a pretty negative way about the business. That in itself is okay as I said we are all entitled to our opinion. What happened here though was this person kept commenting and became quite rude.

I wondered what  his agenda or motive was and why was he wasting his energy trying to be “right”.

Right or Happy?

Can you see what I mean here by this example?

Law of Attraction means we attract into our lives what we give our attention to.  So if we give our attention to what we do not want we will attract exactly that which we do not want.

We must guard our thoughts, words and actions with absolute diligence. Yet most people will choose to be right rather than happy.

Taking Responsibility

Whatever is going on in your life you have created.  Perhaps not consciously but just the same you have created it.    Right or Happy

Telling your story or justifying whatever your circumstances are will not serve you to change them. Accept where you are and move towards where you want to be.

Give your thoughts to the life you are wanting to create.

Don’t give energy to what you DO NOT want!

This is a big one.  You see it all over social media. People with their causes and passions. Stating what they do not want.  Remember Law of Attraction brings us that which we give our energy to…be careful.

Politics is a big one where people are bashing the politicians they do not like.  Far better to focus on the one you do like. See the difference?

Would you rather be right or happy?

Which do you choose? Being right, winning an argument, trying to convert someone to your way of thinking to me is a waste of time. I am not saying you do  not state your opinion. Of course you should do that. Just do it without an agenda to change someone or make someone else wrong.

I would love to hear your opinion on would you rather be right or happy. Please leave me a comment below. Also if you found this of value please share it.

Make it a great day!

 

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26 thoughts on “Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy?

  1. Adrienne

    Hey Sue,

    Well let’s see, can you guess which one I would rather be? lol… Yep, I’m going with happy every single time.

    One thing I have always refused to get in a discussion about is politics and religion. As you mentioned, people have very strong opinions on certain subjects so trying to have a discussion with them about whatever they feel very strongly about it just dangerous.

    Why argue about it? Those people want you to see it their way no matter what. Does that mean we agree? No.. They just want to pull us over to the other side.

    Those are the people who want to be right no matter what! It’s very obvious that they are probably not very happy people either. How can you be! I know several of them myself and overall, I would have to say that if you asked them if they were really happy their answer would be no. Now we know why!

    Great share and I heard about what was going on but I don’t care to be pulled into that nonsense so I haven’t been back to see all the scoop. I made my comment and moved on to something more pleasant! I’m happy girl!

    Have a great week Sue and see you later.

    ~Adrienne
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Adrienne

      I know which you would go for every time. I cannot see you wasting your time being involved in being right. Now I think your way of handling things is great. You say what you believe and that is that.

      Good choice not to get into discussions on religion or politics. Both can lead to no win discussions. Watching the activity on Facebook and the lead up to your election last year was amazing. People with agendas.

      I had to laugh at myself really as Donna private messaged me and I really wanted to support her. I have come across that guy before and it is not pretty. You know I have always thought cyber bullying was a bit of fiction but now I really got to see it. He has been very abusive to Donna.

      I just do not get why we cannot all respect each other and our rights to choose whatever works for us. To me it simple but seems not for everyone.

      I think you have a great attitude to this Adrienne and you are a great example of happy. Thanks for your comment.

      See you in a couple of days.

      Sue
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  2. Donna Merrill

    Hi Sue,
    Yes, that post was a doozy! Although I did allow my guest post person and the rude man to banter a bit. It stopped. But the “rude man” kept on commenting on every comment I had. Now, that is just plain out right rude.

    Sure, it is fine for the guest blogger to comment just as I, but no one invited the “rude man” So I spam blocked him and made a statement on my blog that I don’t allow this behavior on my blog.

    He was so angry…he wanted so much to be right! I received tons of emails from him calling me names. I must admit the first one made me shake and even cry. Hey…I haven’t felt this way in many years! So I dug deeper and then had an AHA moment. I was so grateful that for so many years I had so many positive people around me. That good old Law of Attraction made that happen.

    But sometimes a bit of slime creeps in lol. I was knocked for a loop. So I just said a prayer for him because he is wrapped up in his own negative energy. I forgave him deep in my heart then spam blocked him.

    See, if I were to give in to his negativity, it would be a waste of time, instead I turned it around, blessed him and put up a strong boundary.

    Oh….the saga continues…he found a way into my blog again, but I just spammed it once more. Emails? Yes still coming, in the trash it goes.

    When you are surrounding yourself with positive energy, you cannot allow any bit of negativity to come in.

    Thanks Sue, for being there through this drama,
    Donna
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Donna

      I am only glad that I knew who he was and that I had witnessed other behavior by him.

      I do not relate to people like that but I know we need to distance ourselves. You did the right thing by blocking him but also for you to pray for him is a great way to handle it. Really he is a sad story.

      I know for me I started to get plugged in and upset reading some of what he was saying. Then I had to ask myself why the heck I was allowing this person to upset me and for me to give up my happy feeling. Sometimes I think we have people like this show up in our lives for us to really decide how we really want to be. I get for both you and me is is to be totally in positive energy and with people who support us.

      I know for me being happy is way more important than trying to be right and convince someone else to change their opinion.

      Thanks for your comment and see you in a couple of days.

      Sue
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  3. Eric

    Hi Sue I think this depends. Its probably unwise to think in total absolutes.

    Sure if the issue is just an ego trip, but if the message is critical (with consequences hanging on the outcome) then its better to establish the “right” rather than take an easy path (which the quest for happiness can be).

    A simple test – you and your partner have an appointment – but differ over which day the appointment is for. Do you go for transient happiness by accepting to go for the appointment on the wrong day, with the evental recriminations etc, or sort the date out even if it raises some agro.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Eric

      What I was referring to here and the event that triggered it was opinion based more than arguments of fact. Many people treat their opinion like it is a fact. I was in business with someone like that for years. That was fun!

      In your example of course you should check. That is not an opinion there is a fact behind it 🙂

      Thanks for your comment Eric.

      Sue
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      1. Eric

        Hi Sue
        Sure but ones opinion can be part of who we are (which is a good reason for not trying too hard to change some ones opinion). Its vital to strike a balance between making your point and becoming overbearing.

        I wonder if happy is the right word to use – certainly avaining confontation is good as is preserving a relationship, important factors, but in the short term happy – maybe not.

        1. Sue Price Post author

          Hi Eric

          Yes it is a balance for sure.

          I used the phrase “would you rather right or happy?” as it is a very well known one in personal development. So I am sticking with the word happy 🙂

          Sue
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  4. Michael A Buccilli

    Hello Sue, I am not looking to follow that band-wagon, but I do choose to be happy. I have found through out my life that many people I converse with feel they are right and it serves me no purpose anymore to try to ‘convert’ anyone to my way of thinking.

    I do feel that in many cases I am ‘right’ for my lifestyle and maybe for my purpose – but, for some one else’s life I may be wrong. we each have to do what we feel is right for ourselves and take the consequences.
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Michael

      I agree we all should do what is right for us and that differs for each of us.

      When I was younger I would argue day was night just to be right but realized eventually that was a waste of time. I speak up if I have an opinion but I do not try and convert people to my thinking.

      Thanks for your comment Michael.

      Sue
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  5. Mayura

    Hi Sue,

    Ha ha… I’ve seen the discussion over at Facebook about it dear 🙂 It made me smile ’cause he got no chance after all. You know, I agree with what Donna did there. Also you knew him ranting too, right? I remember reading your comment that states he used to post on Facebook walls too.

    Sometimes folks can be a pain in the neck. Ugh… I don’t like it either. I feel they just trying to outsmart others and convert to their thinking. Sometimes I feel sorry for blocking such a person, but what needs to be done should be done. However later on I don’t remember any of it and forgive ’em 😀 Natural me.

    You are reminding me of something ~ “Don’t give energy to what you DO NOT want!”. I mean I’m not giving energy for things I don’t want but still using “Don’t do” instead of “Do”. Words matters, eh? 😉

    Have a successful RANT-free week Sue 🙂

    Cheers…
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Mayura

      I am sure you saw all the conversations going on about this 🙂

      Yes it is a pain in the neck when someone behaves like this for sure. I would never go to someone’s facebook wall and write insulting things – and of course neither would you. He actually sent Donna very nasty emails. I think that is awful.

      But yes you see he is getting energy. Even now from me talking about him 🙂

      I too forgive easily Mayura. I think it is a healthy way to live your life. Yes using do words is best. I was not sure how to get my point across by not using Don’t – funny really.

      Thanks for your comment Mayura and yes I will have a rant free week 🙂 My week is going really well. Had some nice things fall into place.

      You have a successful week too Mayura.

      Sue
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  6. Radu

    Can’t we be both happy and right? Why do we have to choose between these too?

    Regarding the commenter on your friend’s business, i think he is trying to make a point, like you said everybody is entitled to an opinion.
    Why he is that persistent? Well, here you can debate a lot. I can reply with an experience of mine. I’ve been working from home, on internet for about 4 years and in this time i finished my college, paid for my officer license with the money i earned from freelancing jobs yet i have friends who don’t believe that you can earn a dime working from a computer. But this is happening because they are not able to make the computer work for them and they rather say it’s not possible.
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Radu

      If we are being right from a place of ego and pushing our point of view out there then I do not believe we can be happy. Not in the true sense of the word happy. That is the context I was talking about here.

      The guy who was the catalyst for this post was doing his best to change other people’s opinion. I don’t like that behavior and do not think it is necessary.

      Your example is funny in a way. Probably not for you but when you are making money how can someone dispute it cannot be done. What they are really saying is they cannot do it. It is sad when people do that Radu.

      Thanks for your input here.

      Have a great rest of your week.

      Sue
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  7. Sylviane Nuccio

    So true, Sue!

    Some people are so entrenched into talking about what they don’t like that they will go through great lengths to express their dislikes about something. What those “let’s call them ignorant” people are doing is exactcly that … ATTRACTING MORE OF IT. Yes, attracting more of what they don’t like and don’t want.

    This is the NOT way to go about it.

    There are some things that I have strong feelings about, but even people who know me best wouldn’t even know about, because I NEVER talk about it, and never blog about it either. Well, I don’t need to attract more of it in my life do I?

    Thank you for this great reminder for everyone who will see that post. And yes, it better to be happy than right.
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Sylviane

      I knew you would agree with me on that point of people talking about what they do not want.

      Every day I have friends putting some cause or another on my wall. In most cases they are things i too feel strongly about – like abuse of animals. But I do not want it on my wall. I see that as giving the universe the message back to front.

      I also knew you would choose happiness over right. 🙂

      Thanks for your contribution and see you tomorrow.

      Sue
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  8. Kesha Brown

    You know, the ego is a trip! It wants to be right every time and humans will go to the ends of the world just to prove themselves to be right. I’ve learned a lot about letting go and though I’m not 100% there, I try not to go after being right. (Trust me, the ego will let you know by making you feel wronged, stupid, etc. when you don’t go for right!).

    I wish to choose being happy! 🙂
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Kesha

      Oh yes that ego does just as you say. I am not perfect either but I have done sooooo much personal development over the years I at least can pull myself up and know when I am in a total ego – right state.

      I am glad you choose happy 🙂

      Thanks for commenting Kesha

      Sue
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  9. Stacy

    Hi Sue,

    I would much rather be happy than right! Though there was a time when that wasn’t true, and I wasn’t very happy in general! It’s not fun to be around people who need to be right all of the time, and it’s not fun to be that person either.

    The more positivity that we focus on, the more that we find. That’s the life I would rather live!

    Have a great day,
    Stacy
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Stacy

      I think most of us mellow with the need to be right as we grow as human beings. I am not talking about years as some people have wisdom at a much younger age than others.

      I too once went for right and like you I was not happy either.

      Thanks for your comment Stacy and you too have a great day.

      Sue
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  10. Barbara Charles

    Weelllllll I’d rather be happy every time. Being right is relative. Being right is not always a necessity. If being right will hurt someone or cause someone harm, it is not necessary. Always wanting to be right will cause controversy in my mind which then brings in negative energy. You’re so right. Those who want to be right all the time are ultimately not happy people. And I’d rather be happy than right.
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Barbara

      I know you would rather be happy 🙂

      In my younger days I would go for right when it was pointless but over the years I have learned I do not need to do that. I used to hold onto justifications for some things that happened in my life but I have also learned that does not make me happy.

      I am so into the law of attraction type thinking now I guard myself dearly.

      Nice to see you today. Have a good rest of your week Barbara.

      Sue
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  11. Gladys

    Hello Ms. Sue
    Great article. In my childhood I was told I was wrong all the time, so I believed it. I never thought of being right….. But now, even if I know I am right on a subject, I still do not push my convictions on anyone. Happy people sleep at night. People that want to be right all the time, are always trying to come up with something else to defend themselves.
    I, too have no time for that energy. I love life and I want to also resonate a happy feeling around people.
    I AM HAPPY
    Thank you Ms. Sue
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Gladys

      Wow growing up and thinking you were always wrong must have been tough. I had a bit of being told I was wrong but I also had a strong sense of being right and not in the best way.

      It sounds like you have it handled very well now. The fact you are happy is the most important thing in life. Well I think so anyway. I do not believe we are in this life to be unhappy.

      Thanks for your comment Gladys and have a great weekend.

      Sue
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  12. Hicham

    When we’re wrong, we have to admit it, no need to argue.
    Our ego is more complicated than what we can ever imagine. When we’re young we surely choose to be right, and when we get old, the happy trail is more important.
    Don’t you think that we lose our ego with the age and get ready to make more consessions? or it’s just a question of experience ?
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    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Hicham,

      Wow that is an interesting question. I personally think as we age most of us get less driven by ego and do go more for peace and being happy. But in my observation there are exceptions. I also notice some young people who have a wisdom of a more mature person. I think our consciousness and awareness plays a big part.

      Thanks so much for your contribution. It is a great topic I think.

      Have a great day.

      Sue
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