In my last post Moving Forward: Accepting Change I talked about change being inevitable and the need to accept change and move on.
It had been my intention to share a couple of stories from my life to illustrate how I have accepted change. The post however would have turned into a book so I decided to split it up.
If you did not read my first post I suggest you do that to set the scene for this one. Here is the link again.
I have had many changes in my life but the first really big one out of my control happened several years into my marriage.
Marrying Ivan – A Change that was moving forward and accepting change in a nice way.
I married Ivan, my husband in 1981. That made me an instant step mother to Jason, Rebecca and Quentin.
It also meant I moved from Perth, the capital city of Western Australia to a town called Esperance on the south coast. Esperance had a population of about 6000 people and was a long way from the nearest town. This was a huge change for me.
I also gave up my management job in an Accountancy Practice.
It took me a while to adjust to the new life style but in the most it was easy. I had chosen these changes! I have learned over the years that makes a very big difference… change that we choose is easier to adjust to than those imposed upon us.
I went on to build a small accounting practice in the town and life was good. We lived right on the beach, I had made new friends and we had a nice lifestyle.
The next major change was another welcome one.
Our daughter Shannon was born in 1984. I decided to sell my accounting practice and be a full time mum. Ivan’s business was doing well so that seemed like the best decision for our family.
My only work commitment was going to be doing the accounting for my husband’s business which was a Farm Machinery Dealership.
Here is a picture of my Mum and Dad with Shannon as a new born. My parents were so happy as she was their first granddaughter.
As any of you who are parents know becoming a new parent takes adjustment and is an amazing change to your life. But for most of us we adjust to our new role.
Again in life as this was a change I had chosen so accepting this change was done very willingly.
We also had a Corgi dog as well as a cat I had before I married Ivan. Once again life was good and I was very happy.
Then came the real test – where moving forward and accepting change was much more difficult.
We got news that would change everything in our world. The parent company of the farm machinery we sold had gone into receivership when Shannon had just celebrated her first birthday.
We had tractors, headers and other farm machinery on floor plan (a system where you pay interest on the items until you sell them – I think it was around 18 per cent at the time!). We also had a high level of spare parts we owned. All of which pretty much became obsolete over night.
Moving Forward and Accepting Change
Just over a year later we closed our doors, sold what we could to clear our business debts (including our beach front house) and moved back to Perth to start again. Well it was back to Perth for me, but given my husband had grown up in the country and taken over the family business this was huge for him.
I was as optimistic as I could be and knew I could go back to my profession of accounting.
My dream to stay home with my daughter looked like it would not be realized but I knew I could feed us and I could see no other way.
I ended up working for the guys who had purchased my practice from me.
Ivan on moving forward and Accepting Change
Ivan was pretty confused and did not know what he could do. One thing he was very clear about was that he wanted to use what he had learned to help people not make the mistakes he believed he had made. Ivan went on to become an excellent financial planner and over time we had our own business with another partner.
So what did we learn?
What did my husband believe he should have done differently?
It was to not have all of your eggs in one basket. We had a dealership with one organization and we basically lost it all when they had financial difficulties. It was very much like a franchise is today which can be great when all is going well and the company is financially strong.
To have a business where we did not carry stock. We wanted a different model.
To build a recurring income stream.
And this is something we did not think about at the time but that change that can seem devastating when it happens can be a gift in disguise. Usually we can only see the gift later.
And in summary I have come to understand that moving forward and accepting change is much easier when we are choosing the changes.
Over to you have you had life changing events happen to you? How do you move on and accept the change?
I will be back with one more post in this series. Another one that was certainly not welcome.
Make it a great day.
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