Do you believe that deep down you know what to do?
Too many of us seek external guidance and advice from others when we know what to do deep inside ourselves.
I started my journey into personal development many years ago. In the beginning I thought each course I did would magically transform me into some type of perfect person.
Many of the courses I did I can now see that I did because I thought I was “not enough”. I had more regard for others opinions than I did my own deep inner knowing.
I have had many “gurus” along the way. I actually do not like the word guru and only use it her to illustrate my message.
I was totally invested in what other people thought of me.
I read a book called “What Other People Think of You Is None of Your Business” many years ago. Initially it almost did my head in and then I started to realize I could never control what anyone else thought of me. It is very liberating when we understand this.
Nevertheless I continued to look outside of myself for answers. To believe others were more powerful than me and that the person running a course on “x..y….z” knew more than I did.
I am not sure if it is a trait more common in women than men, however I recognize it more in women. I would love to hear the men’s comments on this point.
You know what to do
If we stop and listen to our inner wisdom for long enough we will get our answers. Too often we are too busy and ignore the knowing within us.
When we ignore our intuition and take advice from others we are giving away our power.
The Role of Mentors and Coaches
I am not suggesting you should not to seek mentoring.
There is a place for mentors and coaches. I think we can short cut our learning to success by engaging a mentor who can guide us in our learning. There are also times when we become “stuck” and another person is often needed to lead us out of this stuck feeling.
What I am meaning is do not become reliant on other people and fall into the trap of always looking externally.
Very often we have all the resources and knowledge we need to be successful in our chosen endeavor. Most times you know what to do.
” To know what you know and what you do not know, that is true knowledge”. Confucius
That quote by Confucius says it perfectly and yes it is true knowledge.
Here is another quote on the subject.
“When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.”
I trust my message has resonated with you and that you understand that you are your own guru and you know what to do.
Have an amazing day!
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