Make You Your Own Guru – You Know What To Do

you know what to do

Do you believe that deep down you know what to do?


Too many of us seek external guidance and advice from others when we know what to do deep inside ourselves.


I started my journey into personal development many years ago. In the beginning I thought each course I did would magically transform me into some type of perfect person.


Many of the courses I did I can now see that I did because I thought I was “not enough”. I had more regard for others opinions than I did my own deep inner knowing.


I have had many “gurus” along the way. I actually do not like the word guru and only use it her to illustrate my message.


I was totally invested in what other people thought of me.


I read a book called “What Other People Think of You Is None of Your Business” many years ago. Initially it almost did my head in and then I started to realize I could never control what anyone else thought of me. It is very liberating when we understand this.


Nevertheless I continued to look outside of myself for answers. To believe others were more powerful than me and that the person running a course on “x..y….z” knew more than I did.


I am not sure if it is a trait more common in women than men, however I recognize it more in women. I would love to hear the men’s comments on this point.


You know what to do


If we stop and listen to our inner wisdom for long enough we will get our answers. Too often we are too busy and ignore the knowing within us.


When we ignore our intuition and take advice from others we are giving away our power.


The Role of Mentors and Coaches


I am not suggesting you should not to seek mentoring.


There is a place for mentors and coaches. I think we can short cut our learning to success by engaging a mentor  who can guide us in our learning.  There are also times when we become “stuck” and another person is often needed to lead us out of this stuck feeling.


What I am meaning is do not become reliant on other people and fall into the trap of always looking externally.


Very often we have all the resources and knowledge we need to be successful in our chosen endeavor.  Most times you know what to do. 


” To know what you know and what you do not know, that is true knowledge”. Confucius


That quote by Confucius says it perfectly and yes it is true knowledge.


Here is another quote on the subject.


“When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.”
George O’Neil


I trust my message has resonated with you and that you understand that you are your own guru and you  know what to do.


Have an amazing day!


sue price












I would love to hear your thoughts on this post. Please leave me a comment below.

33 thoughts on “Make You Your Own Guru – You Know What To Do

  1. Shantanu Sinha

    Namaste Sue Price,

    Great post 🙂
    You can never stop anybody thoughts, what they think of yourself.
    Either you could illustrate them, but then also they would think the same about you or even
    It’s the same, whether it’s a man or woman, they suffer the same problem.
    The problem is that, we trust others more than believing in yourself.

    That’s the point where we tend to loose our power and hand over to someone else.
    It’s always better to hear from everyone, but always better to do, what’s your inner voice wants from you.

    Thank you for sharing this post among us.

    Shantanu sinha

    1. Sue Price Post author

      Namaste Shantanu,

      I am glad you think it is the same for both men and women. Maybe I see it more visibly in women. I love how you have said “That’s the point where we tend to loose our power and hand over to someone else.” So true!

      Thank you for your comment here.

      Have a wonderful day.


  2. Metro

    Real nice post, Sue. I liked that. You’re right, too often we go to someone we view as an authority, but all they’re really doing is confirming what we already know. And what people think about us can drive us to insecurity…no sense in it.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      Thanks for your comment Metro. I am sure sometimes when we do go to others we are seeking confirmation and as you say it can drive us to insecurity. Thanks for your comment. Have a wonderful day.

  3. Tereza

    Great post Sue.So true. Sometimes we just need to silence all the noise and get the answers from within. It is so easy to think there is a magic pill outside of ourselves that will make everything perfect but when we look inside and ask ourselves the right questions, the answers do come.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      Well said Tereza, yes silence the noise is what we need to do. Asking ourselves the right questions too is very powerful. Thanks for your awesome comment.

  4. Kenna Faber

    Great post- we should trust our own inner wisdom. We need to consider who we are asking advice from. Mentors are a good thing.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      Thanks Kenna and yes we do need to trust our own inner wisdom. Thanks for your comment here.

  5. Kerry Lang

    I agree that we do know what to do but by working with mentors and coaches it can help us draw things out that may otherwise have remained buried. I really enjoyed this post thanks Sue.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      I love how you have said that by working with mentors and coaches it can draw things out of us. Very true we can bury things so deeply. Thanks for your comment Kerry.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      You know Helen I do not know who the book was written by. I googled it and there are a few with similar titles. I read it about 30 years ago 🙂

      Thanks for your comment Helen.

  6. di downie

    Hi Sue,

    I was so invested in what others thought of me when I was younger and I have to say that I was shaped by what others thought of what I said and what I did in many ways.

    Like you Sue and you know me more than most, life experiences in the past 15 years or so has given me so many insights into knowing who I am.

    I use mentors and coaches for my business, both businesses, they are valuable and even necessary at times.

    I’m ultimately my own judge of the information I have gathered.

    Great post


    1. Sue Price Post author

      Hi Di,

      I so relate to being invested in what others thought and it is so liberating when we give it up.

      Using mentors and coaches is a great thing to do as long as we do what you are doing and remain the ultimate judge.

      Thanks for your comment Di.


  7. Sabeela Khan

    Great post, I would agree that we do know our inner wisdom and instinct and we need to follow it, but coaches and mentor help to bring it out which we tends to hide.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      I agree with what you have said Sabeela 100%. There are defiantly times when we need a mentor or coach to help us realize what we need to do. The trick is to always make our own decisions. Thanks for your comment.

    2. Sue Price Post author

      I agree with what you have said Sabeela 100%. The trick it to always make our own decision even when we do seek advice and guidance. Thanks for your comment.

  8. Kristine Christiansen

    Wow Sue, this is such an amazing post! I can totally relate to the being worried what others think. I just did a blog and video on the same thing…great minds think alike! You are so right, I think we each know deep down what to do, it’s just a matter of finding the courage to put it all into action. Thank you for sharing this!

    1. Sue Price Post author

      I think most of us have been too invested in what other people think Kristine. Interesting you just did a blog post on the topic. I think as we all see the light we want to share it. Thanks for your comment.

  9. earl hackett

    Sue great post. We may have an idea as to what we want to do but we are influenced by others; our parents, classmates, friends and even teachers. If we go through the formal education process then many feel forced to follow through. The problem is it’s our life and we can re-direct it as to what we want. Reading and listening to thought leaders may get us an idea to do something else.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      What you have said is spot on Earl. We are influenced by all of those people along our path. For me I can add to it bosses too. I had a couple I almost made into Gods. Your idea of listening to thought leaders is a great one and it does help us see outside the box. Thank you for your comment.

  10. LT Turner Jr

    Sue – wonderful advice and value here. It’s so true, what we seek is usually already in us and we just have to listen to the guidance of our soul. Thanks so much for sharing. Blessings! 🙂

    1. Sue Price Post author

      Thanks LT and I love how you have said “what we seek is usually already in us” – so true. Thanks for your comment LT.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      For so many years Helen I looked to others for guidance and yes as you say, it is inside of us. Thank you for your comment.

  11. Carol Makowski

    What a great post Sue. That is an issue I often grapple with. When does the time come when we do not need someone else to guide us? And yet in the business world, many, many successful people have had mentors along the way — some use peers for feedback. For me, as long as there is information that I need and do not yet know, having a mentor works.

    1. Sue Price Post author

      I think your approach is a sensible one Carol. There certainly is a time for mentors and people to guide us. The trick is to never give up our own power. Thanks for your comment.