We all have our own life lessons that we encounter. Some of us learn from them and some of us do not. How can we make sure we do learn from these valuable lessons?
In my last blog post I discussed connecting the dots in our life and why it is important. I believe that connecting the dots in our past helps us get through tough times. You can read that post Here.
I know in my own life I have learned more from my mistakes, failures and adverse times than I have my successes and great times. Can you relate?
For many of us we go through life lessons without ever really learning the actual lesson.
We all know people who repeat bad relationships one after the other. Why is that ? Simply they have not learned what they need to learn to move on to a new and better relationship.
This quote from Haruki Murakami says it well.
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
― Haruki Murakami
If we are not the same person when we come out of our life lessons does that mean we have learned from it? I believe it does not always mean we have learned and that we need a very conscious awareness of what the storm was all about.
How to learn from your life lessons
In my last post Is Connecting the Dots of Your Life Important I talked about how we can often only see why an adverse event happened in our life when we look back at it. Often when we are going through a struggle or tough time we have no idea why it is happening to us and certainly cannot see any possible gift in the situation.
This is where faith comes in and we must hold onto a belief we will get through this stronger than before. When we have connected the dots of our past life lessons it is easier to look at a current one knowing it will make sense eventually.
When we are in the midst of what appears to be an adverse situation we need to ask ourselves questions. Questions like:
- “What am I meant to learn from this?”
- “What is the lesson in this situation?”
- “What is the gift in this for me?”
- “What is right about this situation I am not getting?”
Keep asking and eventually the answers will come.
“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
Taking care of yourself helps you to learn from your life lessons
Here are some ways I like to take care of myself and access my intuition:
- Meditation – by quietening our mind we can access our inner guidance.
- Time in nature – walk along the beach or through a park. Be present to the beauty of the wildlife and nature itself.
- Exercise – walk, run, swim, do yoga or whatever else you enjoy doing to move your body.
- Eat healthy food and drink water
- Get enough sleep
- Laugh including laughing at yourself. For me laughter and a sense of humor is my most valuable tool to get my through tough times.
When you have come through a tough time be it a health challenge, a relationship difficulty, a financial crisis or any other how can you use it to help others?
Our learning from our life lessons can help others. If you have survived a situation let others know they can too.
“Instructions for living a life. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.”
― Mary Oliver
Please let me know if you have any other ways you learn from your life lessons.
Have an amazing day!