Tough times happen to us all. How do we get through them?
I know for me personally in hindsight I can always see the gift in what seemed such an adverse part of my life, however in the midst of the event I do not see it as a gift. How do I then get through these times – and how do you?
I have had many tough times in my life. I have been though many of the “big ones”. This year in January I was diagnosed with a health challenge that rocked my world. The first six months of this year I have had a single focus in my life- to get through it!
How did I get through to where I am now?
Getting through tough times – first things first!
For me the first thing to do was accept what was happening to me. It took a few days to get over waking up thinking I had a bad dream. Then the very practical me kicked in and I had to decide on a path to recovery.
I made a decision once my plan was in place I would not listen to any further “well meaning” advice. Believe me I got plenty of it and learned to be gracious and grateful to the well meaning person but to stick to my plan.
Getting through 6 months of tough times
I had many “tools” I used to help me through. These included
- Inspirational videos
- Meditating daily
- Surrounding myself with people who supported me
- Being absolutely diligent in watching my thoughts
I read quotes that uplifted me like this one >>>
“It is only in our darkest hours that we may discover the true strength of the brilliant light within ourselves that can never, ever, be dimmed.”
Here are some tips from a blog post I wrote two years ago. I must say that my understanding of “tough times” has become much deeper since with my recent experience. This is from the post….
“Before we get into tips to help us get through hard times let’s talk about what not to do
## Do not get into the trap of “if only”
I remember being a young girl (maybe 9 or 10) and a neighbor saying to me when I said “if” about something…. “If is a little word with a big meaning that you should not say”. Now as a kid I did not have a clue what she meant but I have never forgotten that conversation. I now understand.
Going down a rabbit warren of “if only I had done — or had not done—- or should have done” is not going to help you move on. It will keep you stuck and put you in victim mode.
## Do not feel sorry for yourself
– well for more than a few minutes anyway.:-) You just have to plan ahead and look to the future.
## Do not wish you were like your friends who are not experiencing your pain.
The grass is not always greener on the other side. You do not know what someone else is going through even though they may be richer or appear more successful. I have learned that one big time.
## do not hangout with negative people who play the victim role in life.
This is not going to help you stay positive and move forward.
Things that help to get through tough times
## Know this time will pass you will have good times again.
## Look at your options – choose a path of moving forward and take action
## Listen to a daily uplifting audio, or watch a motivational video (YouTube is full of them)
## Read positive self-help books …. again there are so many to choose from.
## Surround yourself with people that support you.
## Seek professional help if you cannot get yourself moving forward. Again there is so much to choose from. Here are some I have experienced Counselors, life coaches, spiritual healers, kinesiologists and various other body work.
## Be grateful for what you do have in your life and put your attention on that.
And always remember your circumstances do not define you!
Here are some other successful people who have faced adversity.
>>>JK Rowling was a single mother living on state benefits before becoming the multimillionaire she is today.
>>>Oprah Winfrey of course is a story we all know. From her troubled abusive childhood to being the planet’s first African American billionaire
>>>Nelson Mandela’s life is one that shows just how resilient the human spirit really is. I love the quote by him “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear”
>>>Thomas Edison failed 1000 times before creating the light bulb. It is how he framed it that is most important here “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
You can read the rest of the post [HERE]
A support Group
This is one thing I learned in this time.
“The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity.”
For me one of the most important factors in this time was my support group. This group included family, friends and some of my online family. Who you surround yourself with is so important in tough times.
Please leave me your comments below. Do you have any tips for getting though tough times?
Have an amazing day!