If change is the only constant in life then why is it so many people resist it? It seems accepting change is very difficult for many people even though most of us know it is inevitable.
One of my favorite quotes is from The Serenity Prayer…..
“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference” – Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)
The key is in the words and wisdom to know the difference.
Can you change it? If not then you must accept the change.
The idea for this post germinated when I was in the bank last week. I was taking some cash out of the ATM and could not help but hear a woman about my age protesting about having to use technology. .
The woman refused to use an ATM and insisted that someone on staff should give her cash over the counter like they used to do. The staff member trying to help her offered to teach her how to use an ATM but she continued to protest. She insisted she did not want to use technology.
Her husband who appeared much older than her eventually was the one that said he would learn what to do.
Others in the bank, like me, were suppressing smiles and there were rolled eyes and sneaking smirks going on between customers.
I was staggered at the woman’s refusal to embrace inevitable changes.
Change is the only constant – there have been many in my lifetime
Later I thought of the woman and I know she would have been through the same changes in communication and technology that I have.
Here are some of them that have happened in my life so far;
- I grew up without computers
- When I started working in an Accounting firm we added up hand written cash books with adding machines. 🙂
- My family did not have a telephone of any sort in the house until I was at high school and we used to go to a nearby telephone “box” to make calls
- My first phone outside of a land line was a “car phone” which was fitted into my car. In fact I think the phone was worth more than my car at the time
- My first mobile phone was like a brick in both size and weight
- When I was living in London and communicating with my family back home in Australia I did it by handwriting in a thing called an aerogram and posting it. It took weeks to arrive in Australia.
- and so the list goes on …
There is one thing I know for sure. I know there are many more changes to come as change is the only constant.
For me embracing changes in technology is easy. How could anyone not want to simply send an email or text message to someone rather than handwriting a long letter.
Technology has totally changed the way we can communicate and live our lives.
Accepting change in other areas of our lives is not as easy as embracing technology.
How do we accept change when we are thrown one of life’s events like death of a loved one, illness, losing a job, bankruptcy or divorce? We are now looking at a whole new level of acceptance.
Change is the only constant- how to accept it
How do we accept change when one of these major life events happens?
#1 Accept that change is inevitable. Nature is a perfect example of the daily changes we witness. Accept that change is the only constant.
#2 Go to this part of the serenity prayer “to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference” Decide if you can change it or you need to accept it. Doing this is a great start as from here you can either work out how to change it or how you are going to accept it.
#3 If you know you cannot change whatever has happened but find it difficult to accept, then ask yourself why you are resisting. Allow yourself to feel the emotions.
#4 Draw on previous experiences. What have you been through before where change that you did not want happened? How did you get through that and what was the result. Drawing on experience is a great help.
#5 Look for the lesson in the life event. It is not always easy to see at the time. I know for me it is only in retrospect I often see the gift in adversity.
#6 Set some new goals. Look toward the future and know you will move on.
#7 Seek help. There are many life coaches and practitioners that can help you move forward. There are books, audios and other tools you can use to move to acceptance.
Do you accept that change is the only constant? So you have any other ways methods you use to accept change in your life? Let us know your thoughts by leaving a comment.
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